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Couples Therapy Might Be The Solution

Couple therapy is the best thing that can happen to any relationship, not all the couples are capable of establishing good communication and understanding within the relationship and that’s where couple therapy experts come into play.

If you are going through a difficult phase in your relationship then instead of waiting and trying to fir things by yourself you should visit a specialist.

The right person to share your thoughts with

One of the biggest mistakes that most of the couples make is, they think their relationship doesn’t need a therapy. Couples share their problems with their family, friends, and colleagues but there people are not the right one to share your problem with.

Your friends and family members cannot give you neutral advice and their pieces of advice can prove to be toxic for your relation. A couple therapy expert is trained to provide you neutral advice and improve your understanding between your relation. Addition to neutral advice, they are professionals with whom you can share your darkest secrets that you were unable to share with anyone else.

Better communication

One of the biggest communication help that couple counseling provides is neutral advice and keeping your talks secrets.

But these professions aren’t just for throwing advices on you, they have the experience to deal with these situations and have expertise in establishing better communication between the couple.

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If arguments are getting more frequent

if your arguments are getting more frequent then you should start thinking about visiting a couple therapist. Argument is a initial stage of any bad relationship. Sometime couples argue on the valid points but most of the time they argue on invalid points due to lack of healthy communication.

Couple therapist is a right guy that will help in establishing healthy communication within your relationship and might cure the problem before it convert itself into incurable.

Understand partners perspective

It’s a normal human behavior that sometimes we get so selfish with our demands that we forget to think from the partner’s perspective. A couple therapist is a right person to share your relationship demands and understand your partner’s perspective.

Couple therapist are also well aware of the dynamics of the healthy relationship and their knowledge and experience plays a crucial role in developing a better understanding.

He has Professional in what he do

Hiring a couple therapist is like a personal trainer, you don’t essentially need him but its always better to hire him. You can exercise without a personal trainer, but if you hire a personal trainer he will save you from any injury, likewise, you can deal with your relationship problems by yourself but a good relationship counselor

 

Find Your Next Partner In The Most Unexpected Places

When its right time, your true love can come to you from any direction and it’s not about how desperately you are looking for your next partner, sometimes you are destined to meet someone at the most unexpected places.

Sometimes its good to let your destiny do the work and you just sit back and see the miracle happen.

At the Gym

Although the gym is not an unexpected place to find love, still we are considering it in our list because it is the place where you don’t pretend to be someone else.

There is something primal in the gym; you look sweaty, hot and reveling at the gym and it’s a perfect place to fall in love with someone. A gym is a place when you remain in your skin. People are always pretending to be someone else for their whole life, at the office they pretend to be more mature and hardworking, at pubs they pretend to be rich and happening.

Gym is a perfect place to find your next partner,  learn to approach someone at the gym before you try to hit on someone. A gym is the only place where your dedication and passion towards something can be seen.

Right under your nose

In a pursuit to find the true love, many of us scan every single option in the whole city but we forget to recognize the best life partner just under our nose.

Sometimes the people with whom we are being friends for years are the best person we can get in our life. You might have searched every single in the city through online dating sites and He/she might be living in your neighbor waiting for your right approach.

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Friends gathering

If you are looking for a next partner then you should definitely not avoid any friends gathering, there you may find someone suitable for you.

Public transport

Another one of the most random place to find love is public transport. It’s a place where you have nothing to do much and you can have a long random conversation with people. Daily commuters have greater chances of finding love in public buses or metros.

On the street

Let me tell you my personal story, at the age of around 18, a guy had a crush on me and he started stalking me everywhere I go. One fine day he stopped me rudely to get into a conversation with me and a tall and handsome guy came into my rescue, and I was fallen in love with him at the point I saw him. Although I could not marry that guy due to personal reasons but we spent some lovely time together.

If you are someone with helping nature then you can surely find the person you have been waiting for. Streets are full of uncertainty, there are people looking for help.

 

Is Your Relationship Healthy Or Toxic?

No relation is perfect, fights and disagreements are common in most of the relationships but there is always a limit of everything and there are signs that can predict the future of the relationship.

Some habits can we considered totally normal but recognizing a toxic relationship in the early phases is very important for your mental and physical health. There are some serious personality traits that you should always look for into your relationship to judge whether you are in right relationship or you should call an abort.

Being a relationship counselor for many years, I got an opportunity to hear many couples in my life, some of them are in a healthy relationship but they needed some lifestyle changes but some of them were really toxic relationships. This article will help you get a better Idea to do justice to your relationship.

Signs your relationship is toxic for you.

  • Is it all about taking? One of the most visible evidence of toxic relationship can be seen when your relations is all about taking. A relationship is a two-way road and if the love is true between the couple then it is always given and take. It’s not always about monetary give and takes, it’s about mental and spiritual support as well.
  • Trust issues: if there is always a trust issue in a relationship then you might be in a toxic relationship. But before certifying your relationship as a toxic it’s important to know whether the trust issues are because of over possessiveness due to some past experience. A couple should see a couple therapist to have a clear vision of the relation.
  • Excess of self love (narcissism): if your partner is excessive self obsessed then you have probably landed yourself into the wrong relationship. Love is all about what you are willing to give instead of what you are willing to take and narcissist person is never suitable for any relationship.
  • Negativity: if there is always a footprint of negativity when you are together then you are probably in a wrong relation.
  • Hostile atmosphere: if your partner has a physically violent nature then you should definitely get yourself out of a relationship, physically violent partners are better suitable behind the bars not in your bed.
  • Disrespect: the day when you start losing respect for your partner, is the day when your relationship starts to decay. Respect is one of the most important ingredients of any relationship and if your partner doesn’t respect you, that means you deserve a better partner in your life.
  • Do you feel unworthy? With the presence of disrespect within your relationship do you often feel unworthy of anything? If yes then your relationship has become toxic for you and you should probably plan an exit now.

So we have discussed the toxic relationships but we are also required to figure out the signs of a healthy relationship as well. So let’s explore that.

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Signs you are in a healthy relationship

  • If your partner is matured enough to let you enjoy your personal space then you are definitely into a positive and healthy relationship.
  • You feel positive about your life? If yes then you are in a perfect relationship, mental positivity is the primary pillar of relationship, mental positivity leads to better life and greater satisfaction.
  • Fights and disagreements don’t mean you are in a toxic relationship, fights and disagreements are important to every relationship, they insure that both the partners possess equal status in relation.
  • Good sex: a great pleasure doesn’t come with the size of the shaft or how long you can last in bed, good sex comes with the connection you are able to establish in your relationship. One of the major benefits of experiencing good sex is it reduces the dissatisfaction in the relationship.
  • You take care of each other
  • If you feel safe and secured while being with your partner and you can completely trust him/her then you are in a very healthy relationship, trust is the most important factor of any relation.
  • Joint decisions are an important part of the healthy relationship, it verifies the equal status of both the partners.

How To Maintain A Healthy Relationship.

Relationship last long because two people made a choice, the decision to keep it, to fight for it and to work hard for it.

Maintaining healthy relationship needs lots of efforts and those who are not willing to make sacrifice are the one who generally fails to be a good partner.

To maintain a healthy relationship you don’t really need a complex process to follow, all you need is a real intention to make it work.

Before talking about the healthy relationship it’s important to understand the true meaning of the healthy relationship. A healthy relationship means a relation which contains the sense of satisfaction.

We all need to make few efforts to grow the healthy relationship. Let’s explore the tips to maintain a healthy relationship.

Don’t argue over money

Arguing over money is the worst thing that happens to any relationship, arguing over money proves there is no understanding between the partners and both have different future plans.

Money is a matter that needs to be sorted on the top priority of any relationship, whether you believe it or not money is the main pillar of our life, and without right management of money, you definitely can’t go smoothly in your relationship. If you haven’t discussed your spending patterns, savings, investments and future planning then you should do it now.

Show your affection daily

Showing your affection, not just about sex, it’s about showing you care. A good random hug or kiss on a forehead can work well.

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Support each other

Support is another most important element of the successful relationship. There are a lot of ways through which you can develop emotional support within your relationship.

  • Complement your partner in front of other people; it gives them a feeling of satisfaction.
  • Say “I love you”, sometimes frank display of love is what your partner is craving for. Let your partner know that you love her/him.
  • Gifts play a powerful role in the display of love, it’s just a gesture that speaks allot about self.
  • Never ignore your partner, being ignorant can lead to ruining of relationship.

Never sleep angry

No matter how bad your day went, sort the issue before you go for a sleep. One of the most common traits of a healthy relationship is they never hold grudged and dissatisfaction for each other.

Spend some quality time

Spending some quality time alone plays a big role in any relationship; it is time when you try to establish a better connection with your partner.

To spend a quality time you can just plan a random date or backpack for a holiday. Due to the active lifestyle, it gets difficult for the couples to spend some quality time with each other. Spending some alone quality time can help in revitalizing your relationship and re-establish the broken thread of your relationships.

Appreciate

Appreciation is an art that you all need to learn if you are trying to maintain a healthy relationship.

Appreciation brings a sense of satisfaction for the sacrifices your partner is making for you, appreciation is a way to say thank you for their support.

Listen

Listening is a powerful tool that can improve any relationship, most of the relationship fails because of lack of communication, lack of communication occurs because of bad listening habit. Here are some tips to improve your listening habits.

  • While having a conversation with your partner, maintain good eye contact and have your face towards them.
  • Try to be attentive and relaxed.
  • Concentrate on what the partner is saying instead of that would be your next response.
  • Don’t interrupt in the mid of sentence.
  • Never pre-judge the statement.

Stay positive

Every time you find yourself into a problem what is your first reaction towards it?

Is it “oh my god, how can I get myself into a horrible situation” or “I have successfully dealt with this kind of situation and I can do it again!”

Having a positive mindset plays a very important role in the relationship; it is going to be the deciding factor whether your relationship is going to be easy going or a mess.

Negativity is a kind of addiction, once you get into negative thoughts you get deeper into it, being positive helps you deal with the negative situation in a healthier way.

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Be an asset

In my long career as a relationship counselor, I have seen couples were not just a liability to their partner. It’s not about how much money you earn, it’s about acting as a burden to your partner.

Try to establish yourself as an asset for your partner, an asset that he/she should be proud of.

You don’t need to earn millions to be an asset; simple personality traits like caring for a partner, supporting and being sensitive towards partner are big qualities that can transform you into an asset.

Respect each other

Respect is more important than anything else in a relationship; your beauty is going to fade away. Respect for each other is the only aspect through which you can establish a strong and positive relationship.